YOU ARE THE MOST VALUABLE INVESTMENT YOU WILL EVER MAKE!
How does it sound to lose weight without actually dieting?
You know that diets don’t work; you’ve tried them in the past.
You felt good as you lost weight, it started to feel like you were actually getting somewhere but in the back of your mind, something didn’t feel right, sound familiar?
1-2-1 COACHING OR WEIGHT LOSS GROUP
First at all thank you for being here this is you first step to change your life!
Do you remember all the times you say to yourself “I must not eat this”, “I’m definitely going to start my diet Monday”, “I wish I could lose weight” and so forth, you are constantly thinking about food over and over in your mind like a subliminal advert running in the background saying food, food, food!
How would your life be if you feel good about yourself?
Nutrition an wealth is an important part of our life and I always thought if we care about it all the rest will come easily, don't you think?
Are you the sort of person who is very kind, you always do friends favours?
In fact you seem to attract people who 'want' from you? Do even close friends slip into that mode of being a 'taker' around you because you're so giving? Do you always want more time for yourself but never seem to get much because you fill your day doing things for other people? Do you find it very hard to say 'NO' as you feel guilty and you often find yourself doing things you don't really want to do? Do you look after your friends, partner, children far better than yourself?
Do you feed others first at the time they want but eat yours later or even don't get time? Do you want to look after your body, but rarely do? You may even live your life in chaos and disorder? Are you the type who is great at giving good solid advice but you never listen to yourself?
If these questions hit home to you then I’m not going to say to you “well that’s why you’re overweight!”
I want you to realise that this is the first step to losing weight and in around 6 sessions I can completely reframe the way you think regarding food.
I will teach you how to tell the difference between real physical hunger that is telling your brain that ‘yes’ you’re hungry and fake emotional hunger that appears from nowhere and demands food ‘now!’
I will give you solid, professional counselling and you will feel as though we are taking these steps together, side by side in your journey back to happiness and fulfilment.
I have an incredible zest for life and I believe that every human being deserves happiness. I believe that every single one of us was born beautiful and perfect but our paths in life are all different and so for whatever reason some of us end up where we are now, not feeling beautiful, not feeling perfect and like I said earlier it doesn’t matter how you look at it but you’re here now. Maybe it’s fate.
The main thing is that I feel right now you are ready to change, ready to see life differently, the way I do and I will fill you full of these positive feelings and thoughts with life coaching, hypnosis and more.
ANXIETY & PANIC
The feeling of anxiety is quite common in all of us, it is a normal part of our daily lives.
I experience anxiety and panic attack on myself too.
When we feel anxious we become fearful of the future and many years ago when we felt anxious we created a 'mental mistake' that the feeling of fear might help us deal with problems, difficult or dangerous situations. However fear about the future is merely a fantasy.
We experience fear because FEAR keeps us away from the memory of being hurt.
Our anxiety states can range from a mild uneasy feeling to very severe feelings of fear and worry. Panic attacks are sudden, intense and often just appear, taking the sufferer completely by surprise.
Panic attacks can fill you with a sense of dying, possible heart attack, you may feel as if you're going to pass out, you may experience flashing visions, you could become nauseous or experience a numb sensation throughout your body. You may begin to hyperventilate or suffer from tunnel vision and the feelings you are experiencing may provoke you to flee the place where you are or in future avoid the place it happened. You can experience palpitations, trembling and they can typically last anything from fifteen seconds up to thirty minutes or possibly longer. When anxiety or panic attacks start to affect your everyday life it is time to seek help.
There are many tried and tested techniques in hypnotherapy that can cure the sufferer of panic attacks and anxiety including hypnoanalysis which can take us directly to the root of the problem.
It is my goal to resolve the problem completely and not to simply give you a way to manage it. The key to this is breaking it down, realising where it comes from and why.
The fear of having a panic attack can bring on a panic attack and this vicious circle keeps on going, when you understand that a panic attack cannot hurt you and you learn to no longer fear the attack you will gain control and the inappropriate and maladaptive mechanism for coping which is your irrational fear will be rendered redundant.
When that happens for you it will be the most positive, profound feeling and if this is happening to you or someone you know I urge you to give me a call, don't you deserve a better life?
Please don't think that if you have had this issue for many years it can't be fixed. I have helped clients who have had this problem for up to 30 years and they have gone on to lead a perfectly normal life. There always hope.
So how does it work?
How can I quit a habit of a lifetime in only 2 hours?
Well I’m sure you may have heard that hypnosis has been proven to be the most effective way to quit smoking but maybe you still feel sceptical? Or it all sounds a bit too easy? But you could, read on…
Try to remember when you had your first cigarette or maybe the first few, did you smoke then because you felt stressed, tense or to help you calm down? Did you smoke then to help you concentrate? Nearly every client I have spoke to has answered “because my friends did”, “they made me look big, feel grown up” and so on...
And here you are now, depending on it! After a certain amount of time (roughly every 45mins with regular smokers) your brain will tell you that you NEED a cigarette.
You can imagine it being like a parasite inside you that needs feeding and once you smoke it lets up.
What happens if you don’t?
The feeling gets stronger and stronger and you become more agitated until you finally light up and that first puff that you suck down to your boots feels amazing. Your brain remembers that feeling of agitation and stress and you begin to plan ahead unknowingly, working out when you will smoke, how many you need and so forth.
What incredible control cigarettes can have over you!
If any of this sounds familiar to you then you probably deep down realise the control and maybe part of it even scares you. I’m sure in this day and age now where smoking has become completely unfashionable you will have heard all the horror stories of deteriorating health, cancer, emphysema and more.
You may even know a friend or a relative who has suffered ill health or died because of smoking but isn’t it amazing that we can ignore it all and think it won’t happen to us?
Let me explain a bit about what will happen when you come to see me.
Our first hour will be a counselling session using cognitive behavioural therapy and neuro linguistic programming to really find out about you and your habit.
The reason is that when we move on to the next hour of hypnosis I can completely tailor the session to you because it is you that is important.
I don’t see you as just another client and you will get that feeling the minute we meet. I want to help you and it’s important to me that you are choosing me to bring your success and combining all of these powerful techniques is the most successful way.
Every one of us is born with great self-esteem. We did nothing to get it, we were just born with it.
Then someone or some event comes along and pulls the 'rug' of self-esteem from under us and then we go about the incredibly strange job of learning to unloved ourselves!
Let me guess? If you have low self-esteem you are the sort of person who is very kind, you always do friends favours. In fact you seem to attract people who 'want' from you.
Even close friends can slip into that mode of being a 'taker' around you because you're so giving.
You always want more time for yourself but never seem to get much because you fill your day doing things for other people.
You find it very hard to say 'NO' as you feel guilty and you often find yourself doing things you don't really want to do.
You look after your friends, partner, children far better than yourself.
You feed others first at the time they want but eat yours later or even don't get time. You want to look after your body but rarely do. You may even live your life in chaos and disorder. You are great at giving good solid advice which you never listen to yourself. Sound familiar?
We all have an inner voice which we will be aware of throughout our day.
It may begin at the mirror in the morning, people with low self-esteem have a critical inner voice it might sound more like “I’m so ugly”, “my body is disgusting”, “how could anyone want to love me?” This voice will be criticising them throughout their whole day.
Do you feel that you have low self-esteem or maybe someone has told you that you have? Have you ever tried listening to your voice?
Perhaps you can remember what it said to you as you looked in your mirror this morning? How would it feel if I asked you a few questions? Do you deserve to be happy? Are you an important person? Are you worthy of love?
Why should you be denied the joy of being alive, the beauty of life?
Some people believe confidence comes naturally to people with good self-esteem. Does it?
Think about some of the famous stars from past and future who are amazing on stage but are incredibly insecure. Confidence can be gained. Learning how to acknowledge small successes in your life, learning how to congratulate yourself to build confidence, learning from mistakes to reinforce confidence and faking confidence till you become confident.
EVERYTHING YOU WANT IS IN THE OTHER SIDE OF FEAR
If you’re interested in learning more about me and my services, please send me an email or contact me 07835271079
Are you desperate to give up nail biting forever?
How does it feel when you've bitten them to the point that they are so sore you can't even touch them or brush them against something?
Do you find yourself trying to hide your fingers in social or work situations out of embarrassment?
Learning about how to stop nail biting first begins by understanding the problem and why you do it.
Nail-biting or onychophagia as it's known medically can be just a bad habit that you indulge in when stressed or bored, but it can also be an expression of internal worries.
Some people don't even realize they do it, nail-biting is more than biting your nails till they are short and sore, nail-biting has a negative effect on your fingers and health. Nail-biting transports germs from hand to mouth and back increasing the risk of infection on your nail beds, in your mouth, gums and in the long term, it can also damage your teeth. Some compulsive nail biters run the risk of viral and microbial infections.
So maybe you are a self soother? Some find it has a calming effect in times of stress and after they've bitten their nails they feel better and more relaxed. You may be a perfectionist? Examining your nails constantly looking for anything that looks out of place and then biting them to improve them, ending up with your nails feeling painful and looking a whole lot worse than when you began.
You may need to be stimulated?
If perhaps you are doing something you find boring that would usually make you want to nod off to sleep, you may find nail-biting stimulates you to the point of keeping you alert.
Nail-biting can also be learned in the home from family members and copied beginning as early in life as pre-school.
What is your story? How does your habit work?
How would it feel to not do it ever again but most of all not even have it enter your mind?
We all have our life ‘script’, our own personal values and we all hope that others see us for who we are and what we feel we stand for.
How often in your life have you decided you don’t like somebody because they simply don’t see you for the person you are?
They misread you. If we are in a relationship our partner can be a freedom to our values or an impediment. We desire our partner in the way we want to be validated.
A common misconception with couples is that they often feel that no matter how much they try to get their point across, the other person is just not listening.
More often than not they have been heard but their partner is refusing to comply, this is when I will begin to negotiate and manage a contract between them.
Couples generally seek help quite late in the disintegration of their relationship and emotions can run high so in the first session I will ask each partner to explain why they are here without the other interrupting. I will help them communicate and actually hear what the other is saying, sometimes when we row we are only listening to our own voice and values. Quite often I will ask one partner to summarise what the other has said and commented on it.
We would usually have 2 sessions with all 3 of us followed by two one-to-one sessions with each partner separately. These one-to-one sessions would be confidential and each partner will only share things they have discussed in these with their partner in the following sessions if they want to.
The great thing about couple counseling is that therapy can continue at home and I will often encourage an agreed ‘homework’ to do each week to help things move forward so we reach a common ground that is positive for each partner.
This work is not only limited to couples but any type of relationship, for example, parent/child but whatever the worry or issue between you please don’t hesitate to call.
Life can be hard enough but when you know in your heart that there is someone worth fighting for, then isn’t it time to give both of you that chance.
WHAT IS YOUR DEEPEST FEAR?
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.
We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small
Does not serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine,
As children do.
We were born to make manifest
The glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us;
It's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we're liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.
"Teel me and I'll forgot.
Teach me and I'll remember.
Involve me and I'll learn."
I believe it is important to connect with a child client in the first few seconds of our meeting, this is going to be a big deal for them and the last thing they want is me appearing to be just like any other authoritive figure that they would never open up to.
I'm their friend and they can trust me.
I am trained to talk to children in an age-appropriate language giving them space and time to feel heard and listened to.
My child client is encouraged to tell their own story without fear of judgment or interrogation focusing particularly on their feelings using my skills in empathy and sensitivity.
What is said during our sessions is confidential. I will talk about our session with the child's parents if the child requests it or if I feel it would be helpful, but then only with the child's consent. The exception to confidentiality is if I have reason to believe that any person was at risk of harm, either from themselves or others, as I am duty-bound by law to report this to the relevant agency.
Parents want to do their best for their children but sometimes life has a way of throwing things in our path making everything seem like a challenge. They may feel they have failed as parents and of course, that is not the case but accepting there is an issue that needs to be looked at is a big step and a very important one.
My first session could begin with the parent/parents themselves so I can get some background information and where they are at in life. This can be quite difficult for them but I have found many parents find it a great relief and a step in the right direction. Sometimes the parent/parents may find counselling would be helpful for them too.
Quite often children cannot find the words but I will work with them in a gentle, sensitive way building rapport and allowing them to experience themselves as a person, a unique individual who can move forward. towards a brighter future.
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If you have any questions or comments do not hesitate to contact me! Thank you!